Exciting Fall Season

For many the fall season is a fresh start. Many are heading into a new school year to further their education, to see their friends they haven't seen for a while and also to make new ones. Some are returning from their long vacations to resume their normal schedule. Perhaps some are moving on from their summer flings to another direction. It's a time where you feel rejuvenated again in a lot of ways. I find the fall season to be a great time of the year as there's plenty to be excited about. 

Fall season is the start of the hockey season

That's right, hockey comes back from the summer break. A new NHL season with changes teams have made over the past few months that leaves their fans eagerly waiting to watch and root for. Sport bars get filled with broadcasts of the games and that means getting together with other hockey fans for lots of cheers and beers. You see the passion and the support for teams as jerseys comes out displaying vibrant colors that brings out all the puck bunnies. It's quality time you can spend with families and friends who also love hockey and a great opportunity to meet other people. Hockey fans everywhere get back together and gather around to enjoy the game of hockey.

Fall Weather & Clothing

The summer heat dies down to cooler weather with refreshing breezes. This is where it becomes comfortable to wear layers where you won't sweat and not just plain t-shirts. People can generally look their best during the fall. It's comfortable enough to wear combinations and layering of button-front shirts, cardigans, nice sweaters, denim jackets, wool jackets, leather jackets, blazers and more. You can start wearing your good pair of jeans or other nice pants with stylish sneakers, shoes, desert boots, leather boots, and oxfords. Scarves comes out, hats comes out. It's where women look their best with elegance and creativity and I'm not talking about sweatpants and uggs. Get out there to enjoy the weather in warmth and look good. It can give you something to strike up a conversation with some else. 






Feel Comfortable Jogging and Walking

There won't be the hot humidity and heat when you're out jogging in the fall compared to the summer. Jogging in the fall feels more nice and you'll sweat a lot less without suffering from the heat. With the cool weather and leaves changing colors, it feels good to go out for walks in the environment whether it is by yourself, with your pet, a companion, or a significant other. It's a good time to meet other people if you're single. 

Fall & Love?

They say fall season is ideal for finding love. That people will fall in love during this time of year. If you look at it, this is the time where people settle back into their normal lives, students go back to school, and the weather begins to gradually get colder so, people want to find someone to cuddle with for warmth. They know that in a few months, winter will be here and that is the holiday season where they want to spend time indoors with their love through the long cold season. It makes sense doesn't it? 

I will say though, if you are in the mindset of finding love this fall as a single, then you'll likely set yourself up for disappointment. What I suggest is, enjoy what the fall season brings. There are many fall festivities to take part in like apple picking, nature walks, tasting the new fall beverages and treats, pumpkin carving following up with Halloween, and of course Thanksgiving. Change your mindset into going out and doing things that will bring happiness. Enjoy time with your families, your friends and enjoy taking the opportunities of meeting all kinds of people.

MBTI - INFJ Personality - The Protectors

ESTP - ESFP - ENFP - ENTP - ESTJ - ESFJ - ENFJ - ENTJ
ISTJ - ISFJ - INFJ - INTJ - ISTP - ISFP - INFP - INTP 

Introverted - iNuition - Feeling - Judging

The INFJs supposedly only make up about 1-3% of the world's population making it one of the rarest of the 16 personalities. Those who are INFJs are seen as the protectors or the counselors. They are warm and gentle individuals who show a lot of interest and care for other people. Their desire to find deeper and hidden meanings leads them to a world of possibilities making them quite possibly the most artistic and creative type. 

While growing up, INFJs can often get the feeling that they differ immensely with everyone else and that they get misunderstood a lot. The stronger their introversion and intuition are, the more they will isolate themselves if their ideas and observations are taken lightly or shown with little sympathy. They don't deal with conflict well and normally try and avoid it as quiet as possible.

They are generally seen as counselors since they tend to be older than they are, that they are more wiser than their peers and sometimes even adults while at a young age. INFJs who acknowledge their strong introverted intuition (Ni) early on will see themselves taking on roles of helping others out with their problems by advising them. They put a lot of trust in their judgments and insights when they see the benefits in their Ni thus, provide great abilities of insight and even foresight, appearing psychic-like.



Being highly perceptive, they can easily see through your bullshit, look beyond your masked appearance and see what your real and deeper intentions are. 

They are perfectionists who seem to never be happy at where they are in life and always strive to improve themselves. INFJs are generally very private and keep thing secretive from most people with the exceptions of the very few that they are close to. In terms of how INFJs think, it tends to be more visually often with dreams that are vivid. They are fond of using metaphors.

Depression can come if they feel their artistic and creative nature is missing from them or are in conflict with their career or relationships. It can come from feeling so alone from too many misunderstandings. 

INFJ Cognitive Functions

The Dominant function of INFJs is Introverted iNtuition, Ni. This is where INFJs take in all possible impressions of a particular matter to come a new interpretation that will allow them to see the big picture a whole new way. They also rely on past experiences to come to decisions. 

Their Auxiliary function is Extroverted Feeling, Fe. For the INFJ, this is simply creating relationships with everyone for the greater good that conforms to the norm agreed upon by all. INFJs with strong Fe can understand the needs of others and connect with them well to communicate their ideas and judgements that is hard to argue against. 

The Tertiary function is Introverted Thinking , Ti. INFJs will look to their Ti when they get overwhelmed with all the possible interpretations of a situation when making a judgement. To go internally and look for logical reasoning to find what is most important and appropriate to them. 

INFJs' Inferior Function is Extroverted Sensing. Se. As an inferior function, INFJs lack the ability to acknowledge what the face value of something is. They always try and look for a deeper meaning even when it isn't necessary. Developing their Se can help provide more tangible information to help their intuition, simply as another resource.   

*Notable INFJs include Mahatma Ghandi, Nelson Mandela, Nicole Kidman, Carey Mulligan, Mel Gibson. 

How to Spot an INFJ

They normally seem kind of tense appearing to be uncomfortable out in public. How they are feeling can be easily read by their face. General topics of conversations will have them use lots of exasperated sighs. Topics they love turns them completely opposite of quiet. When talking they usually speak figuratively with deep meaning where no one else will understand and will probably think they're weird and slowly leave. 




 

Why we get Ticklish and Laugh

I may not be a loud person for the most part and you'll rarely hear me raise my voice but, one of the few times that you see me do is when I'm being tickled. A poke on my sides will cause me to slightly jump with alert and probably let out a yelp. A tickle attack on me especially when I am trapped, will bring all the calmness into uncontrollable laughter, furious squirming and what feels like yelling STOP!! a hundred times but leads to about hundred more.

Why do we get ticklish in the first place?

Looking at the human brain, it makes you alert of being touched and of other matter of senses from millions of nerve endings in your body. There are two regions of the brain that creates a tickling sensation, the somatosensory cortex and the anterior cingulated cortex. Something like a touch will stimulate the nerve endings and sends signals to the brain, which it gets analyzed by the somatosensory cortex on things like how much pressure was applied. The signals also goes to the anterior cingulated cortex which deals with pleasant feelings. These two combined will lead to a tickling sensation.

Why you can't tickle yourself

You generally can't tickle yourself in the same manner as when it's done by someone else. On the back of your brain you have the cerebellum which deals with controlling movement. This part of the brain is able to predict that you're trying to tickle yourself where it will alert the rest of your brain that the action is taking place. This will largely mitigate the effect of the tickling sensation thus, you won't be able to tickle yourself. 

Some areas of the body are more ticklish than others which is due to them having more nerve receptors that are highly sensitive. This is especially evident in the soles of out feet. It can be noted that the areas that are ticklish are areas where it is uncommon to be touched by people.

Why do we laugh when tickled?

A simple touch by someone else on one of the many ticklish areas can cause you to giggle or laugh. Even when you have a sense that a finger is making its way to those areas you will have a smile on your face. Why is that so? Majority of the areas that are ticklish are areas where they are the most vulnerable to injury. It seems strange that you laugh when you are tickled doesn't it? This brings to a point that tickling is a creation of socialization. 

It may not be completely known as to why we laugh when tickled but, it is a way to show that you submit to an aggressor who's tickling you. The responses evoked by being tickled comes from humans growing and living in an acceptable social manner. This comes in the form of learning and teaching oneself to protect the vulnerable areas of the body. When you feel someone is about to put their finger to the side of your body, as a defense mechanism you draw your arm in to shield that area. (source:Clark) 

The involuntary laughter from tickling is a way of not being harmful to the tickler, the aggressor, in a playful manner. That is, until the tickler goes too far with the unwanted tickling, is where negative reaction can occur. Tickling can stimulate nerve fibers that causes pain so, over tickling or tickling too hard can be painful. (source:nye) Playful tickling can be a great fun way for individuals to interact, from parents bonding with their children, from friends that is likely to be more in a torturous manner as well as with lovers but, will likely lead to something else.

A little unwanted tickling is fine with me, it's all fun and games. If you decide to proceed further with it though, just take note that my arms, elbows and legs will be flailing around frantically out of control laughing hysterically. It's not always safe for all you ticklers.

MBTI: ENFJ Personality Portrait - The Givers

Continuing further from my last post on Introducing the MBTI Personalities, you can go back and read what each of the four letter combination means and take a free test on finding out what type you are here. 

ESTP - ESFP - ENFP - ENTP - ESTJ - ESFJ - ENFJ - ENTJ
ISTJ - ISFJ - INFJ - INTJ - ISTP - ISFP - INFP - INTP 

Extroverted - iNuition - Feeling - Judging

  In a nutshell, if you find that you associate the most with the ENFJ personality type, you are seen as the givers and helpers. ENFJs are hard workers who often see the good and the potential in others where they seek to bring that out from people. Usually they are very open to express their feelings and of the strong values that they have. They love to help others with guidance and encouragement and they do it well. ENFJs always seem to be friendly, very positive and when you combine that with their excellent communication skills, they can easily make new friends or connect well with people.

Working with people is a joy for them and people love to work with them especially when the ENFJs are in a leadership role. They show great empathy and understanding of others which creates such a loving and harmonious environment.

Going deeper, ENFJs are sensitive people with lots of emotion. They like to be liked by everyone thus, are prone to putting too much effort into pleasing others rather than themselves which isn't always a good thing. Criticisms and negativity generally don't sit well with them as they become disappointed or even hurt. They can have such strong idealistic views that they can be become unrealistic and naive when trying to bring it to realism. The imperfections of what is reality will be unsatisfying to them. ENFJs are too hard on themselves as they tend to put too much blame on themselves for not being able to make their fantasies real.

ENFJ Cognifive Functions

The Dominant Function of ENFJs is Extraverted Feeling, Fe. This is where they have a strong need to engage and connect with others. To make decisions based on feelings and be able to see the needs of others and adapt how to behave with them.

Their Auxiliary Function is Introverted Intuition, Ni. This supports their main core of Extraverted Feeling where they will internally go deeper in the meanings and ideas. To make reflections on the impressions of others and find ways to understand them to figure out how best to respond to their needs.

ENFJs Tertiary Function is Sensing, S, and is usually not as developed for majority of ENFjs. With a weak Sensing function, they can have difficulty dealing in present time with realities and facts.

Their Inferior Function is Introverted Thinking, Ti. ENFJs with low developed Ti will have trouble making proper judgments with their own objective reasoning and bring out an ugly side out of them.

* Notable ENFJs include: Oprah Winfrey, Martin Luther King Jr., Emma Stone, Denzel Washington.

How to Spot an ENFJ

You can typically tell someone is an ENFJ if the person is great at storytelling, someone who always checks in with everyone to see if they are having an enjoyable time in a social setting, always appear to be quite flirty with almost anyone, or someone who can't stop making sexual innuendos. Lastly, an ENFJ will probably hug you to death.

My Myers-Briggs Type Indicator - MBTI and its 16 Personalities

What is the MBTI?

MBTI is the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator which is an assessment of personality types. The theories of the personality preferences were first identified by Carl Jung, a well known psychologist. It was later developed further by Katharine Briggs and her daughter Isabella Briggs Myers during WW2 into an instrument that is known as the MBTI.

The MBTI has 16 different personality types that paves way for people to understand themselves and others better in each of their perspectives. To gain a better understanding of how some people communicate a certain way, how they see the world and act differently. Getting to know your MBTI can help you choose a career that best fits you, to choose partners that are most compatible for you, and to develop further than seeing just one perspective and into all 16 perspectives.

MBTI Model

The model of the MBTI consists of four primary functions that people can find differences in. We can see these differences as having mental preferences of one over another which affects how we do things. Looking at the model it consists simply with four letters.

The first letter deals with your mental orientation that has two dimensions. The first dimension is your energy orientation where your mental world is either Introversion, where you gather your energy through solitary reflections and thoughts, or Extroversion, where you get your source of energy from interactions with the outside world. Thus, your first letter will either be I or E

Your second letter deals with your mental processes with two dimensions. The first dimension is the way you 'perceive' information through either sensing or intuition. People with the preference of Sensing perception focus more with their five senses; what they see, hear, taste, smell, and touch. They favor looking at the present and the reality, working first with facts and details. People with the preference of iNtuition perception focus on the meaning and impression of information. They look at the big picture and put a lot of thought into the future. Your second letter will either be S or N.

Your third letter is the second dimension of your mental processes which is how you come to make your 'judgments'. People with the preference of the Thinking judgment prefer to be analytical, objective and use logic to come to decisions. People preferring the Feeling judgment put emphasis on maintaining harmony in their decisions. They take into consideration of other people's point-of-view and try to bring what is best for everyone. Your third letter is either T or F.

The last letter for your MBTI personality is the second dimension of your mental orientation, the outer world orientation which is how you deal with the outside world. People who rely either on their T or F function assert order, organization and structure to manage the external world. They have a Judging orientation. Those who use their S or N function, handle things with more flexibility and openness to experience the world rather than asserting order. These people have a Perceiving orientation. Your last letter is either J or P.

Putting all the combinations together and you will get 16 different personalities and they for the most part are quite accurate in understanding all the individuals in the world. You can take the MBTI assessment here. It isn't highly accurate but, will provide you a general idea and more insight of your personality. The 16 MBTI personalities are as follows:

  

Take the test if you don't already have an idea of which of the 16 MBTI personalities you associate the most with. Studying the behavioral tendencies of each type can greatly help you figure out your type. 

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Information adapted from http://www.personalitypathways.com/MBTI_intro.html

Eye Contact with Strangers

When you're out walking down a street, where do you look when you pass by people? You will probably you give them glances, maybe you look to the sides pretending you see something interesting, maybe you look down on the floor or just straight ahead as if you don't acknowledge the person at all. What about maintaining eye contact with a stranger as you walk by? Most people will feel awkward or discomforting when their eyes meet with another.

Prolonged eye contact has strong effects. It can be considered aggression particularly between two males. When two men hold eye contact with each other having a stare down, the man who looks away first can be considered the weaker man.

How about between a man and a woman? If the man makes eye contact and breaks it off first, it does display less masculinity. More so, if he looks straight to the ground walking by. Some men can have difficulty maintaining eye contact with random attractive women they see. This could tie in with the confidence of the person. Someone with social anxiety will have extreme difficulty in maintaining eye contact with almost anyone.

When I was a child growing up, I did have trouble with looking into people's eyes. It definitely made me feel awkward when I meet eyes with a stranger. As I got older it became easier for me. Now, I usually lock eyes with women especially ones I find attractive. If I sense that men are staring at me acting cocky, I sure as hell won't be looking down on the floor.

What women do with their eyes can tell how much interest they have in you even if you just are walking by them on a street. People like to look at attractive people and women are no different. Making eye contact makes you more attractive and confident. Not all women will give back a positive response though but, if you intend to gaze into eyes of women don't look away first. 

Generally, if a woman just gives you a quick look and looks away, there's no interest. If she holds her gaze with you for at least a few seconds then looks away, there's some interest. If she holds her gaze and does a double take where she breaks off first but almost instantly looks back at you, she finds you attractive and you caught her looking at you. If she smiles or even says 'hi' after maintaining eye contact then it's very obvious. You don't even have to be smiling when you look, just have a calm straight face showing you're not a threat.

If you have trouble with eye contact, work on it. Try it with people you know first and get comfortable with it. It builds confidence and benefits you in other aspects in life. Try it out on strangers in public holding gazes with someone of the opposite sex. If you're a man there's nothing to worry about, you'll be surprised at how many good responses women will give you. 

Bruce Lee Inspiration

Despite having his life end so early at the age of 32 in 1973, Bruce Lee's movies, teachings, philosophies, and his influence still lives on. The impacts he had made continues to make an impact to individuals worldwide. He is truly one of the most influential person in this world and I will share some inspirations he gave to me with a quote of his. 

“A goal is not always meant to be reached. It often serves simply as something to aim at.”

Find a direction for yourself to lead you out from being lost. Set goals for yourself and tackle them. Review the goals and your progress weekly. Go somewhere where you want to be. Look up ahead and go. 

Whether the goals are achieved or not, if you went for them, you will see that you have achieved more than you would have if you had not aimed for your goals. You will find a direction in your life. 




Bruce Lee's famous 2 finger push ups demonstration